True and Beautiful.

I have come to realize that most people are not really happy in their relationships. There is an all important step towards happiness in your relationship and that step is what I call; self appreciation. The world we are living currently is filled with stressful activities and uncertainty of the economy! Remember that there is a strong link between financial security, healthy economy, stress, job challenge and relationship approach.

It is a pity that the world we live gives most people very few opportunities to sincerely relate or connect with their lovers and this single factor is Seriously causing arguments and complains from the victim in the relationship. One thing I have come to discover recently is the rising rate of people complaining that their partner doesn’t appreciate their beauty. Well, women are those suffering more as a result of this ugly development. Many ladies have told me that their male partners don’t really tell them how good they are looking often. It is also important to point out that some men are also experiencing this in their relationships.

Now, when you are down emotionally, it means you will not be happy even physically and you know what that means to your relationship-frustration, endless arguments, complains, fighting and even cheating! When you look at most of these people who complain about not receiving the deserve appreciation of their physical look from their partners, you will discover that they are always nagging. It is because they are frustrated and their relationships suffer for it.

I was once a victim of this and I read an article about appreciating myself and today, I’m really a happy person. My relationship is going fine and my partner doesn’t receive that mountain loads of complains and nagging. 
What is self appreciation?
To appreciate yourself means to adore your personality, to see the good qualities you have, to tell yourself that you’re looking beautiful, to believe in yourself, to discover yourself etc. You know how good we feel each time our partner looks at us and say: “you are looking good, beautiful, and exceptional”?  It makes us happy, but if your partner doesn’t say it always and you desire it often, you can feel dejected!

I urge you to start seeing the beautiful aspect of yourself. Remember that you cannot love your partner and express love fully to him/her if you haven’t loved yourself first. You must always look into the mirror and appreciate whatever you see there. You should be feeling good about yourself. Don’t rely so much on your partner to tell you how beautiful you are, say that to yourself too. Remember, once you are happy with yourself, you can easily be happy with others including your partner.

Feel beautiful and confident and see how things change! 

Cheers! :)

Sweet revenge or sadistic pleasure?

This is a work of fiction! Enjoy!

Things have a way of getting tangled up.

The rain pours outside, relentless like the thoughts in her head. The man beside her sleeps on, dreaming of God only knows what men dream of. Race cars? Supermodels? Her fingers have long since stopped seeking his out for comfort. They seek out a cigarette instead; the gesture now so practiced it barely registers anymore. The smell of the rain mingles with the tobacco scent of a thousand nights like this one. The mingled odours rise up and settle onto her chest, pressing until she can barely breathe anymore. The bed isn't hers; she rises to escape its throttling embrace.

The window seems less dangerous. Leaning out, she looks at the plants by the windowsill. His wife is a herb lover. In the early, heady days of their acquaintance, she remembers laughing at him telling her that the missus's green thumb cultivated everything except weed. Now she leans and smells thyme, basil and mint. Well grown, well loved plants, tended with the care that escaped the marriage within the walls. 

But then, how can she judge anymore? He's been lying to her for years now, inuring her to a life of secret meetings and covert hook ups. She may even have begun preferring it that way. God knows she couldn't be the wife, satisfied with herbs alone. She's been meaning to break it off for a long time, but habit has proved more persevering than she accounted for.

How does one end up as the Other Woman? Is she predisposed towards it? Is there a separate school or university for virtuous, herb growing wives? There's been nothing out of the ordinary about her life, so why did she end up taking this fork in the road? She looks at the sleeping man, the man who somehow got her to accept sordid as exciting; who managed to erode what was inside her till she was okay with this. 

He's vain, a peacock looking for validation, from yes men and yes-to-anything women. His vanity is even more extraordinary given how meagre he is. Suddenly, it's impossible to stay used to this any longer. 

She goes to the dresser and opens a drawer. The scissors are exactly what she needs. She goes over to his sleeping form and gently begins what she should've done years ago. It takes a while because she wants him to stay asleep; a scene isn't something she can endure right now. 

When daylight breaks, the room is empty save for the gently rumbling snores of a man lying on the rumpled bed. All around his head lie bunches of hair, snipped without grace or mercy. The herbs on the windowsill look freshly watered.

The Truth About Relationships

Again before i even start i would like you all to know that this is not a hate post or anything of that sort okay?

We live in a world where relationships, well i dont even know whether to call them that or not, have become all about uploading a picture of you and your partner on facebook. Fights are only about hanging up. Whoever hangs up first is one who has to be convinced. And what is convincing? Sending texts that say i love you boohoo, im sorry baby, please forgive me pumpkin. I mean now really? Behind all the show and non sense we've just forgotten what relationships are about. They are about emotions! They are about communicating, supporting each other, having someone to count on, having someone by your side and being there for them. It almost seems like the next gen wont even be familiar with this word you know!

Okay now as far as the girls are concerned, we've just adopted this idea of a tall dark handsome prince who would come and sweep us off our feet. Well going by that it seems my prince has lost his way or his horse collapsed or something, because if thats not the case, i really need to gift him a watch, he's running late! Really late. As girls we have so many expectations from our boyfriends that we lose count of limits , boundaries , promises and even cliched dreams . Though every relationship whether short or long has its own unique start and seems to be beautiful and enchanting to each one of us at first , they all land up in the same bin one day or the other. Girls you need to stop running after materialistic pleasures that come with a relationship. Money, it can be earned, house and expensive gifts, all these are just byproducts. Where is the love? 
Okay you love him? Great, I am proud of you but just be honest to yourself for once and ask yourself will you stick to him if his business went down or he got fired? Will you? Well, if people are being honest here, I'll tell you not even 5% of the women would say yes to this question. Our minds have been polluted by this cliched idea of a perfect life with a handsome prince. Okay asking for a safe future is not wrong but trust me only a safe future cant keep you happy. Money, house, jewellery, dates and dinners can come in later but trust me, if you choose these over love, oh boy, better hold on tight'cause you're in for one hell of a life for materialistic happiness lasts only for a while!

Now, guys,  most of the bachelors today are dying to get a girlfriend , fall in love and experience all the wows cause they have no idea how much pain those vows bring in, but gentlemen I humbly request you to let go of this and take a step towards the better parts of life ; music, dance , photography , art , sports , writing , travelling or your childhood favorite ,porn but please deviate yourselves from this swamp called relationships. All you would be doing is pampering your self- centered and thankless girlfriend who only know ‘you don’t care about me’ , ‘you don’t love me’ and ‘you don’t want to be with me ‘ , like seriously this is what you need ? Even if you want to live the ‘Romeo-life’ for once find the perfect Juliet and do not , mind it DO NOT jump for mind games , beauty , hot – sexy bodies , seduction techniques they are all traps set by tramps .You guys need to look out for a beautiful soul, a pure heart. I know you  cant rip open a girls heart to see how it is (even though i know wish you could rip off the t shirt at least!) but still try it.But guys I swear it ain’t that easy and especially being a girl myself who behaves like a bitch more than 20 hours a day I know it isn’t so you do have a tough job in front of you but if you succeed  you will be  the luckiest guy in the world and yes you will feel so. And how ? Well go ahead and ask a guy who has gone through this struggle . Its a long and tiring process filled with heartbreaks and tears , night long daaru-sutta sessions and a load of abuses but have faith you will reach there and do not give up hope there are good women out there waiting to be loved; just like the hyped men who take away your dreams, your hyped beauties are taking away theirs so go out and find the real women with real curves , real hair , real lashes , real friends , real lives and real hearts. The journey is yet to begin.

Its really strange how our idea about love has changed over time because of these movies which show only rich brats and their sexy looking chicks having a good life. However, they are just movies, my friends, just movies. Normal people with ordinary lifestyles and average looks can also lead a very romantic and happy life. You just have to look for your perfect someone and the sweet nothings will automatically seem sweeter and better, yeah?


Cheers! :)